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Apparently, I have reached the limit of what LJ considers a reasonable amount of reading older entries on the flist. I went up to 9th August, so I might have to read anything between me leaving on Augst 1st and that time on people's individual journals.

Thanks, LJ. *sigh*

I'm slowly, very slowly, adapting to the fact that I need to work again.

Today, I think I managed to be reasonably productive until around noon. Maybe I'll manage even longer tomorrow. The main problem is that the huge works are mostly done, what remains is little stuff that is more boring, has less visible results and is mostly rather tedious. And I just cannot find the energy to do it.

The coming weekend will be the family gathering of my mother's family. The good thing about them is that they don't pretend to love each other when they actually can't stand each other, they're honest and sarcastic. The annoying thing about this is that I don't really need my aunt telling me I'm never going to find a guy for me if I don't accept that with my looks and characters, I just can't raise my expectations too high.

As there seems to be the general feeling that keeping all options open is a good idea, I got an account at InsaneJournal in addition to the GreatestJournal account I've had for a while. So far, I'm no posting in either, though

shiv5468 recently posted something about how to post to multiple journals at once and I might consider. What's your opinion? Are you planning on abandoning LJ for greener pastures? And if you do, where do you go?
My user name is the same as it is here, so I'd be happy to have you guys friend me rather than me searching for hours to figure out who is where.

Interestingly, IJ actually speaks of itself as "LJ" at least once: when you go to the page where you can customize your journal, they say "LiveJournal provides two style systems that allow you varying control over how your journal is displayed" *g*

Last but not least, a very happy birthday to

correspondguy! I hope you have a great day today.

Now it's bedtime for me, I have to get up at five tomorrow after being able to sleep until 6:30ish the past two days.

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...my aunt telling me I'm never going to find a guy for me if I don't accept that with my looks and characters, I just can't raise my expectations too high.

WTF? Who says stuff like that? Does she TRY to be rude? Never mind the fact that she's totally wrong.

Please don't leave LJ :-( I'd miss you.

I'm not going anywhere at the moment. :-)

My Mother's family believes in blatant honesty, especially when it involves saying possibly hurtful things. The more refined members of the family apply sarcasm and irony sharpened to a deadly point. It's a good training. Growing up in a family like that, and with my father's family's total insensitivity to anybody else's feelings, there's very little that can visible bother me nowadays.

Thanks much. It seems to be going well.

I don't really need my aunt telling me I'm never going to find a guy for me if I don't accept that with my looks and characters, I just can't raise my expectations too high.

I can't believe I skipped over that the first time. If I can ever get my act together to come to Germany, I am so slapping your aunt. I would make suggestions for dealing with her, but I suspect you don't need them. Anyway, I think you're cute and smart and funny, and I'm convinced that your standards are appropriate. I bet if you were in Milwaukee, you'd have to carry a pistol to avoid meeting a decent feller.

Oh, I've no objections to meeting a decent feller. Usually, I just ignore her comments, though last night I was pondering the problem and came up with a wonderful imaginary conversation I'd like to have with her. See my reply a little further down to

annie_from_aust.

Aww, thanks! It's so nice to see somebody willing to defend me. And you should definitely come to Germany, even if you won't get a chance to slap my aunt.

I'm not going anywhere, and I'm not making any accounts on other sites.

I think it's a panic that will fade pretty soon, anyway.

I think so, too. I also don't think that LJ is being such a monster about the whole affair. I don't like how they handled every step, but there are also some fairly serious legal issues involved here, and I can't totally blame them for making some blunders, either.

*nods*
The problem is that nobody can really say what's happened and why. IN their statements, LJ of course tries to say as little as possible so nobody can later claim "But you said..."
And it's hard to judge how offensive materials / journals that were deleted actually were, because of course the friends of the person are unlikely to think of the stuff as offensive, and the rest of us can't see it anymore.

LJ is, when all is said and done, a private business and it can delete journals however they please...

Yep, that's true. And the next person who talks about why LJ is oppressing their Free Speech rights should get bopped on the nose. At least.

*L*
It's the internet that supposedly gives you unlimited opportunities for free speech, not a specific site.
Besides, there are limits to free speech everywhere, and what LJ is targeting is child pornography which is not covered under any form of free speech.

People hear Free Speech and automatically assume that it allows them to say anything, anywhere, to anyone. It doesn't. LJ could ban people for saying "purple" if they wanted, since Free Speech rights only cover governmental agencies. They would be stupid to do so, but they would be within THEIR rights as a private business.

*g*
Maybe we should wander over to the lj_biz community and suggest they ban the use of the phrase "free speech".

Maybe we could turn the madness around, and demand that they call it "French Speech."

*ROFL*

Would there also be French assemblies? As the word Freedom is being overtaken by one nation, the rest of us have to find a replacement, after all.

Mate, I am staying with the live Journal.

Like your other Flisters, I am aghast at the behaviour of your Aunt. Mayybe you could tell her
"opinions are like A-holes, everybody's got one, and some really smell !"

*LOL*
I like that!

If people saying "mate" reminds me more of "The Fifth Continent" than of Australia, I'm probably reading too much of Terry Pratchett...

Last night, I came up with a conversation that would go something like this:
She: you really shouldn't be so picky or you'll never find a partner.
Me, ponderously: I don't really see why I need a partner, actually.
She: But you surely want to be in a relationship!
[I'm skipping the no-kids part here, because thankfully the majority of my family has finally accepted that if I say I don't want kids, I don't like kids, I really mean it.]
Me: What for?
She: Companionship, conversations, sex
Me: Online-Friends, Internet, one-night-stands?
She: ...

Unfortunately, I'm not nearly brave enough to go into the discussion that would result from this...

I like that "conversation". Just smile knowingly at her. There is nothing wrong with staying single. I am and I contribute to society by being a good Aunty and a good friend.

Must read Terry Pratchett again !

I contribute to society by being a good Aunty

*nods*
The Kids discussion is the worst thing ever. People stare at me as if I've grown another head if I don't start squeeing when somebody shows baby pictures. I stay away from actual, real life babies as much as possible, I wouldn't know what to do with them.
And I really do not like them. Nor do I like kids. And I am mortally afraid of teenagers. No way I'd ever get myself one of that lot!