I’m rather disgusted this morning.
No, scratch that. I’m absolutely, totally, completely disgusted.
I just read an article about what experts apparently call sexual neglect.
Just the stories, not the theory:
A social worker frequently visits families whom he finds sitting in front of the TV together watching porn.
A fourteen-year-old girl’s plans for the weekend mostly consist of a gang bang.
In youth clubs, supervisors don’t leave teenagers alone in a room because too often they return to find the girls giving the boys blow jobs.
A woman shows porn movies to her nine-year-old son and his friends and lets them watch her having sex with her boyfriend. When taken to task by a social worker, she says “I don’t know what your problem is; it’s just sex, perfectly normal.”
A pastor in a youth centre is asked by a nine-year-old whether he wears thongs – she thinks the ones her mother’s boyfriend wears are so cool. An eleven-year-old girl asks the same pastor whether it’s normal for her not to have had sex yet.
The managing director of a porn movie company says the best-selling movies are those completely without plot – just a woman, several men and maybe a halfway flat surface. All amateur actors, of course, because the buyers prefer to see the women feel “real pain”.
Two girls of 19 and 20 respectively explain that they didn’t start with sex all that early – “maybe eleven or so, just like the others”.
A six-year-old boy caught teachers’ attention in school because he kept pulling girls into corners, pulled down their pants and underwear and was pretending to have sex with them. The mother explained that she lets her son watch when she and her boyfriend watch porn movies including rape scenes. After the talk with a social worker, she banned her son to his room when she was watching those movies, but let him watch them in his room alone.
Girls offer sex to boys whenever, wherever. Other kids record that with their cell phones and put the movies on the internet.
Primary school children quote songs about gang bangs, rape and every possible form of sexual intercourse.
Mothers take their children to concerts of those “musicians”, because they themselves think they are so cool.
One of those rappers claims that these fantasies are what all women dream of. Asked to verify that, he browses through the contacts on his cell phone. “Can’t call this one, she’s not even sixteen, would give me all kinds of trouble. This one, she’s nineteen.” He calls the girl, she arrives, introduces herself as the girl with a gang bang record of twelve guys at once.
A psychotherapist tells about an eleven-year old boy who raped his four-year-old sister multiple times. At first he didn’t want to talk about his reasons, then he said, “they all do that”.
(The German article can be found here
Last night in a radio show about a completely different topic was mentioned the story of a German woman who, in the Fourties, had a son with an American soldier. Which caused all kinds of trouble for her because the soldier was black, so it was pretty obvious, and her husband had not actually died in the war as she had thought, but returned later to find her with a child most definitely not his.
Anyway, the woman explained that the soldier had been so nice to her, giving her and her family chocolate and cigarettes and stuff, she wanted to repay him, and that was the best she could do.
The thing is, what these girls today do is pretty much the same thing. They have so little self-respect that they don’t seem to see anything wrong with being hurt by guys. On the contrary, having sex with as many people as possible, and telling everyone, becomes a way of being important, of being somebody in their group.
They don’t hold hands. They don’t kiss. If you told them about love, they’d probably have no idea what you’re talking about. It’s not even closeness they express with the sex; it’s become a way of passing the time. It’s not “I like you; I want to get close to you”. It’s “I’m bored, there’s nothing on TV, let’s have sex”. Apparently, there have been cases on military bases too, where males and females get together on long, boring weekends for a bit of gang bang.
And with what they see growing up, neither the guys nor the girls see anything wrong with that. They hear and see that women like
to be raped, that it’s normal for several men to have a go at one woman, that it’s normal for the woman to feel pain, that there is no need for any kind of emotion to be involved.
And what kind of background will these people bring to their families? Given that contraception does not play an important role in porn movies, it is to be expected that they will at some point reproduce. They themselves were raised in a surrounding that hasn’t given them any idea about relationships, emotion or even a healthy respect for their own bodies.
What kind of future is that?